It is very difficult to tell a logical, cognitive story about your inner child. The child within is so deeply feeling and illogical. She felt everything viscerally in the body first — visual impressions, colours, sounds, emotional fragments, and sensations — and then, only after the age of seven, did she start creating a narrative from her logical mind.

When an empathic woman ends a relationship with a narcissistic person, there is often a period of great confusion and a need to demystify the lost relationship. If you were an over-giver in your relationship with someone - a friend, lover, or even family member- it is helpful to look back at the timeline of your relationship with fresh, discerning eyes, starting from the beginning. Review Your Relationship What was the original spark or hook for you when you first connected?

We are trained early to avoid emotional suffering. Emotional suffering comes from the dishonouring, denying, or alienating of our authentic self. Emotional pain is part of our human condition, and it feels like, "Something is really wrong. I feel like I am going to die with pain. There is no way out. Nothing works." 

The foundation of deep inner child/emotional healing is being able to reset your nervous system to a calm state at will. This takes determination and practice, but the more you interrupt fight, flight, freeze and fawn patterns, the more you will know that you have the power to regulate your nervous system. You might be spending too much time in a state of nervous system activation. You might even feel locked into a state of fear, characterized by fight-or-flight, freeze, or f

Imagery rescripting helps you change the nightmare so that it turns out in a way that doesn’t lead to emotional and nervous system distress.

All emotional pain needs to be fully processed in the present moment as soon as it happens, or it will be stored in the body as uncomfortable energy.

Individuation is the process of becoming fully yourself. It involves healing core attachment wounds that tell you who you "should be" to belong.

Downloadable Fillable Questionaire for Adults The Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) Questionnaire is a tool used to assess the impact of...

Typically, the healing of a core wound starts with a problem in your relationships, work, or family.

There are reasons why you might fear emotional vulnerability. Perhaps you have experienced rejection, betrayal or hurt in the past. Or, maybe, you have been taught to believe that vulnerability is a weakness. However, the truth is that vulnerability is a strength because it takes courage to show your true self to others. Facing the fear of vulnerability can be challenging, but it can lead to greater emotional freedom and a deeper connection with other people. Learning to be v

Facilitating Your Self-Discovery ​Depth psychotherapy, as I offer it, emphasizes facilitating your self-discovery. Through a dedication...

Your inner child is your most authentic self. Perhaps you can remember moments when you were a child - when you were open and loving,...

The Adult Inner Child Many of us live primarily from our inner child psychology. As you go about your adult life, some of your life...

This is a sample lesson from my Inner Child Therapy Course Compassion for Your Inner Child "The cry we hear from deep in our hearts...

The Root of Core Pain - "I am suffering and separate from love because..." Often without knowing it, each of us has such devastating...

Managing Emotional Pain I have found that working with personality parts in therapy is a creative way to understand emotional pain....

Have you ever wondered why relationships can bring up so much anxiety? Your relationship successes and struggles relate back to how much...