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Six Stages of Healing Core Wounds
Typically, the healing of a core wound starts with a problem in your relationships, work, or family.

Shelley Klammer
5 min read


Fear of Emotional Vulnerability
There are reasons why you might fear emotional vulnerability. Perhaps you have experienced rejection, betrayal or hurt in the past. Or, maybe, you have been taught to believe that vulnerability is a weakness. However, the truth is that vulnerability is a strength because it takes courage to show your true self to others. Facing the fear of vulnerability can be challenging, but it can lead to greater emotional freedom and a deeper connection with other people. Learning to be v

Shelley Klammer
5 min read


Inner Child Therapy Meditation
This is a sample lesson from my Inner Child Therapy Course Compassion for Your Inner Child "The cry we hear from deep in our hearts...

Shelley Klammer
8 min read


Internal Family Systems Therapy
Managing Emotional Pain I have found that working with personality parts in therapy is a creative way to understand emotional pain....

Shelley Klammer
7 min read


Finding "Right Distance" from Emotional Overwhelm
Most people either suppress their emotions or become completely overwhelmed by them. It is possible, however, to turn towards your...

Shelley Klammer
2 min read


Emotional Check-In Exercise
You might be going through your life feeling numb, distracted or out of touch with how you really feel inside. This is very common. Daily Check-In Here is a great daily check-in exercise that you can track in your journal each day inspired by David I. Rome, the author of "Your Body Knows the Answer." If you easily abandon yourself when you are with other people, you will also find this exercise helpful. You can do this exercise in your journal once a day. This emotional check

Shelley Klammer
2 min read


The Emotional Causes of Physical Pain
Most of us try to ignore our emotional pain by stuffing it deep inside our bodies. When we hold in our emotions, body tension becomes habitual and chronic. The repression of emotional pain eventually creates physical pain or illness. To process the emotional pain underlying all hurtful events, we first need to relax so the repressed energy in the "emotional pain body" can discharge. Most of us need to implement a daily relaxation practice to condition our nervous system towa

Shelley Klammer
12 min read


Freedom From Obsessive Compulsive Behaviors
Controlling Anxiety In the effort to control anxiety and emotional pain, the mind can become enslaved. Once the patterns of obsessive compulsion take hold, they do not let go without a fight, because they seem to be controlling anxiety. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is driven by anxiety, and it's also a faulty way of trying to deal with anxieties: "If I carry out the ritual, maybe my anxiety and emotional pain will leave me alone!" Getting caught in obsessive-compulsive patte

Shelley Klammer
3 min read


Naming Your Emotions
Focusing is a path of self-inquiry that welcomes nuanced experiences that we often overlook. We gently bring awareness to our bodies, where feelings and sensations reside. We allow and befriend whatever we are experiencing in a way that permits the stuck places to loosen …moving us toward greater peace, freedom, and wisdom." ~ John Amodeo, PhD An Emotional Awareness Journal Process Listening to your body for 15 minutes a day can help you become more attuned to your emotions

Shelley Klammer
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Cultivating Emotional Awareness
You might be "putting off" tending to your difficult emotions, hoping they will go away. Yet, when you delay holding a loving presence...

Shelley Klammer
2 min read


The Six Stages of Emotional Healing
In Emotion Focused Therapy there are six stages of emotional healing. I have tweaked the model to place the need for nervous system...

Shelley Klammer
5 min read


Types of Emotional Responses
In emotion-focused therapy, emotional responses can be classified into four general categories: adaptive, maladaptive, reactive, and instrumental. Adaptive (Healthy) Emotional Responses are beneficial emotional responses to life. For example, sadness about a loss, anger in response to a violation, and fear of threat all lead to needed change and powerful action. Sadness is a healthy response when it motivates us to reconnect with someone or something important that is missin

Shelley Klammer
2 min read
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