Updated: Oct 27, 2020
Most of us "put-off" tending to our difficult emotions, hoping they will go away. When we delay holding loving presence for our emotions they go into deep storage in our bodies, only to create much more distress down the road. This is why I encourage people to take time to quietly sit with their emotions every day. Even 15 minutes a day of gentle inner attention can begin the emotional unravelling process.
Long suppressed emotions have tremendous power. It takes courage to turn within and face all the layers of emotions that we have been unwilling or unable to "sit still" with in the past. We live in a world that does not encourage emotional awareness, so it is easy to find reasons to numb and distract ourselves. So, even as our emotions simply long to be felt, honoured and accepted, we often tuck them away, hoping they will go away. But, they never do.
At a certain point, we become so accumulated with layer upon layer of unfelt emotions, it becomes hard to practically function, and we may even get sick. Setting aside time to sit gently in the heavy emotions we have been afraid to feel is terrifying to our nervous system. But, we can practice getting used to strongly "turning toward' what feel painful.
When feeling emotionally overwhelmed it helps to place one hand upon our heart, while turning our attention within. When a difficult emotion arises, we can welcome it - if only for a few minutes in the beginning. When we pay attention to our painful emotions they will provide new information about how to better live our lives. Spending time with our emotions invites new insights that we cannot access when we stuff our discomfort into deep, dark storage within.
Daily Dedication to Emotional Awareness
1. Sit or lay down in a comfortable quiet place.
2. Place your hand on your heart.
3. Affirm to yourself, "I am going to take 15 minutes to feel my emotions.
4. Pay attention to where the discomfort (or good feelings) feel active in your body.
5. Place your other hand on the part of your body that feels emotionally activated.
6. Invite the emotional discomfort into your heart by sliding your two hands together.
7. Say "I love you" or "I see you, feel you, and hear you" to your emotion - as many times as necessary - until you feel a sense of relief.
Loving your all of your emotions unconditionally begins the healing process. This daily process will help you to feel lighter and freer as you practice.
Much love and care,