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Is Depth Therapy Right For You?

Depth therapy is a collaboration between the therapist and client, and it requires first and foremost that you are at the stage of your emotional healing journey where you are willing to honestly self-reflect. Depth therapy involves listening deeply to your feelings, thoughts, behaviours and body sensations to gain insight into how you might be unconsciously participating in the challenges in your life.


In your therapy sessions, you will be compassionately invited to go deep within your mind and body to gain insight into how maladaptive behaviour patterns from childhood and unhealed hurting younger parts of yourself are clouding your ability to actualize your true dreams and desires.



Self-regulation skills are necessary

The depth therapy that I offer online is an oscillating process of accessing the painful emotions that are emerging for healing, and then coming back to the present time to build upon your strengths. Feeling, expressing and releasing pain is necessary for the emotional healing process, however, your ability to reasonably regulate your nervous system is a primary skill that you will need to participate in the depth therapy process.


In online therapy, self-regulation is especially important. As long as you can maintain self-safety and self-care at home, online depth therapy could be a good fit for you. My aim is that you will feel encouraged to expand your strengths as you learn how to navigate the hard places in your life. If, however, you are feeling too dysregulated to be able to honestly self-reflect during an online depth therapy session, we can begin the necessary transition to a therapist who focuses on nervous system regulation.


How Do You Know You Are Dysregulated?

If you are locked in dysregulation (fight, flight, freeze or fawn) it will feel difficult to honestly self-reflect because the subconscious mind's prime concern is safety. When dysregulated, you might feel protective and closed to deeper inquiries or growth suggestions in your therapy sessions. If your self-protection mechanisms are overly activated it is more important to tend to your nervous system first so that you can feel safe enough to collaborate in the depth therapy process at a later time.


While I do not specialize in long-term nervous system regulation therapy, as a depth-oriented therapist, I aim to help you safely explore painful and confusing experiences so you can connect more honestly and compassionately to why you are struggling. If your nervous system is too overwhelmed and shut down, however, it can feel difficult to talk, self-reflect, or set growth goals. Or, if you feel too anxious and agitated, it can feel unsafe to collaborate or receive feedback.



Your Commitment to Healing Brings Results

Depth therapy seeks to look deeply into your life's problems by understanding and treating the root causes. Bringing consciousness to unconscious feelings and patterns playing out in your life facilitates deep insight and healing. Yet, taking the journey into your inner world can feel challenging sometimes. Depth therapy is a commitment to honestly look at your existing personality structure, impulses and tendencies to discover your unconscious thoughts and behaviours, so that you can better understand how you are creating and miscreating your life.


All emotional healing is self-healing. I am deeply committed to your emotional healing process, and if you are equally committed to your growth, your depth therapy sessions will most likely be fruitful and progressive. Interpersonal engagement and collaboration, self-responsibility, readiness to define growth goals, the interest to look for the deeper roots of your painful symptoms, the willingness to share vulnerably about what is not working in your life, honest accountability about how you might be playing a part in your relationship challenges, and a sincere interest in learning how to self-parent your inner child will greatly enhance your experience of depth therapy.



Calling All Parts Of You Back Home

Depth therapy aims to support you to become aware of what has been cast out of your consciousness. Neglected and unloved aspects of self are most often at the root of emotional distress. Healing happens when what has been repressed, rejected, denied or ignored is allowed to come forward so that you can understand what you need. Once you find the emotional needs that you have been neglecting, you can learn how to care for them and become the author of your transformation.


With love,

Shelley

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