A dedicated period of therapy can support you to understand what bothers you on a deeper level than you might be able to figure out on your own because it is so easy to get caught in a maze of negative emotional patterns. Sometimes therapy can save you years of time circling within a confusing maze of emotional pain.
As a counsellor, I support emotional healing in a way that is deep, kind, intuitive and often even fun! When you understand and release what is holding you down, you will feel lighter.
Usually, people come into therapy with a "pressing problem" that they cannot solve on their own. Unravelling life's challenging dilemmas and untangling pervasive emotional distress requires a dedicated period of inner work so that you can wisely, compassionately soften into the thoughts, events, and circumstances that create your pain.
Regular therapy involves dedicating yourself to a positive change process. When your old ways of doing things are not working anymore, depth-oriented, emotion-focused therapy investigates your painful emotional triggers. Understanding how your particular nervous system operates on repeat-mode and seeing where you self-ignore and self-reject will help you discover how you perpetuate your emotional pain. Most emotional pain is caused by limited subconscious beliefs, unprocessed life circumstances, traumatizing events, and wounds from primary relationships. Emotional healing involves cultivating profound self-acceptance by integrating forgotten or habitually rejected aspects of self. Because we are often the last to recognize our own blind spots, it is helpful to have an experienced counsellor to guide you through your emotional healing process. ​Key insights for deep change make themselves known within 4-8 weeks of dedicated therapy. As a therapist, I offer gentle ways to get to the root of your emotional pain, as dictated by the timing and rhythm of your nervous system. Your current challenges, circumstances, and relationships provide all the clues you need to get to the root of why it can feel so difficult to permanently change for the better.
Once we know the subconscious limitations that are negatively running your life, we can focus on the truthful "reprogramming" of your emotions, mind, and body to reveal the person you are meant to be. It is also helpful to understand that you do not need to be in terrible emotional pain in order to attend regular therapy sessions. Often, the "happier" sessions provide the most personal insight. Your mind will be more open to inspired directions for change when you are not in so much emotional pain.
With love,
Shelley