Updated: Oct 9, 2019
Resistance arises when it feels hard to face the truth about something. You might feel resistant to changing a destructive behaviour. Or you might feel resistant about talking about certain things. Resistance indicates that you are getting close to a breakthrough in your growth. Resistance arises when your defence system is preventing you from revisiting a deeper hurt, for the fear of the temporary pain it might cause. Resistance keeps us from accessing a tender, hurting place inside that needs our loving attention. Resistance is a protection device that keeps our wounded thoughts and emotions from the past from being reopened for healing. Resistance forms the walls of our comfort zone, so that we can continue to keep our emotional pain safely tucked inside, away from light, air, love and attention. Within this comfort zone it is difficult to grow. The longer we hold onto our resistance to healing the hurt, the more our emotional pain accumulates over time, and the smaller our world becomes. Fearful resistance limits our expansion. Most of us have a great deal of stored emotional pain inside that some therapists call, "unfinished business." Yet, deeper than our resistance is something that hurts and is crying out for loving attention. Once this hurt is paid attention to, it will grow and shift into something more positive and life-affirming. Journal Exercise:
What are you currently avoiding in your life? You might consider areas such as your relationships, career, money, intimacy and friendships. Write a list of all things you are resisting in your life right now, and share it with me during your session. Together, we can explore what you are afraid of, what you believe, and what kinds of fears are holding you back from living your best life.