Updated: Oct 9, 2019
Impatience arises when we are not able to get what we want, when we want it. High achievers and perfectionists mask impatience by claiming that many important things need to get done.
When we are impatient, we fear missing out on life. We stay up late in order to squeeze as much as possible into each day. Yet, by leaning into a more desired future, we consistently miss the present moment as it is arising.
Stress, hurry and excessive busyness intensifies impatience. When we are in a hurry, we can make uninformed decisions, clench our teeth and jaw, and overreact emotionally. Impatience masks deeper emotional needs that we try to meet by doing more, instead of seeing what we already have.
When we are not patient with the present moment, we push harder towards an idealized future. We constantly try to do better in order to feel better. The to-do list becomes longer and impatience continues to cycle through our life.
Journal Exercise Notice yourself becoming impatient during the day. Make a list in your journal about all of the things you currently feel impatient about. Bring your notes to session and we will explore the emotional roots of your impatience.