Impatience will arise when you are not able to get what you want, when you want it. High achievers and perfectionists mask impatience by claiming that many important things need to get done.
When you are impatient, you will fear missing out on life. You might stay up late in order to squeeze as much as possible into each day. Yet, by leaning into a more desired future, you can consistently miss the present moment as it is arising.
Stress, hurry and excessive busyness intensifies impatience. When you are in a hurry, you can make uninformed decisions, clench your teeth and jaw, and overreact emotionally. Impatience masks deeper emotional needs that you try to meet by doing more, instead of seeing what you already have.
When you are not patient with the present moment, you will push harder towards an idealized future. You will constantly try to do better in order to feel better. The to-do list becomes longer and impatience will continue to cycle through your life.
Journal Exercise Notice yourself becoming impatient during the day. Make a list in your journal about all the things you currently feel impatient about. Bring your notes to session, and we will explore the emotional roots of your impatience.