Updated: Oct 9, 2019
Generalized anxiety sits "on top" of unprocessed emotional pain. If we did not receive adequate soothing, care, protection and support during painful events in our past, we didn't develop the ability to name or regulate our emotional experiences.
Without compassionate support at the time of our emotional injuries, we tend to invalidate our pain. We silence it, and we even blame ourselves for our negative experiences. Then, we worry, in an effort to protect ourselves from falling apart emotionally. Worry masks the fear that we might not be able to cope with painful feelings that were not cared for in the past.
Staying in Your Body
When you have generalized anxiety, you think excessively and have trouble staying in your body. You might unconsciously fear that if you do not have "worry thoughts" to anchor to, you could disintegrate from the intensity of emotional pain.
To heal generalized anxiety, you need to practice "staying in" your body. When you deeply experience your emotions, you find words that bring honour and bravery to your human experience. With the help of a therapist or a supportive person, you can transform your negative emotions into more empowering feelings.
Healing Daily Worry
Generalized anxiety is the excessive, exaggerated anxiety about everyday life events with no obvious or logical reasons for the worry. People with symptoms of generalized anxiety tend to expect some kind of disaster, and can't stop worrying about health, money, family, work, or school.
When you pay attention to what makes you feel vulnerable, and explore the intensity of your emotional pain, you will find words to symbolize your emotions. Turning bravely toward your pain helps you to access new strengths, modulate your distress, soothe yourself, and express your feelings and needs to others.
Emotional Support in Counselling
An empathic therapeutic relationship focuses on:
a. Support to build a stronger sense of self, and trust that your emotional experiences are valid.
b. Support to experience your disowned emotions, and make sense of your life story.
c. Support to change the negative ways that you relate to your emotions.
d. Support to heal past emotional injuries, and resolve "unfinished business" from the past.
e. Support to practice self-soothing when you feel upset.
What do you frequently worry about? Write down your worries in your journal and we can discuss them in your session.
With much care,